Harvey Ross Bax
I would like to thank you for visiting Harvey`s memorial website. This memorial website was created in the memory of my loved one
Harvey Bax who was born in the United Kingdom on March 28th 2002 and passed away on March 28 2002.
Harvey was my much wanted Son.He had so much, and so many people waiting to greet him.
He weighed 2.2lb he was perfect, he was so beautiful !
It was once said that he was too good for this world, and this i agree to be true!
We do not know the reason he slipped away at 31 weeks.We could not stand the intrusion of a post mortam, the reason is irrelivant, it makes no difference to know "Why"?, we only know he should be here with us today.
2009
It`s coming up to 7 years.
Does a day go by i don`t think of you ? " No"
Is it any clearer to me why you were taken? "No"
Will i be writing the same in 20 years from now? "Yes, i know i will"
SINCE CREATING THIS WEBSITE HARVEY`S PARENTS HAVE SEPERATED!
Happy 6th Birthday Harvey
Since making this website Beverley and Clive Bax have seperated.
Wave Of Light October 2009
Before you leave, please light a candle for Harvey
His family read each one.
PLEASE SCROLL DOWN TO VIEW HARVEY'S ALBUM
A Child that loses a parent is an orphan,
A Man who loses his wife is a widower,
A Woman who loses her husband is a widow,
However, there is no name for a parent that loses a child,
For there is no word to describe such pain.
Harvey was stillborn on 28.03.2002.
He was brought home with us, where he belongs.
We had a small group of special people at Harvey`s funeral.His Daddy prepared the ground.We laid him to rest ourselves, and with us he shall remain.
One day he will lay in our loving arms again!
Everything was going fine! I went for a routine ante-natal appointment.The midwife could not detect a fetal heartbeat, she called in a second midwife and she could make one out beating fast but they thought it was mine beating fast as i was becoming worried.I dropped my Daughter off at her Aunties and drove over to the Hospital.
Clive and i had had a tiff that day, and on the way to the hospital, i began to worry that the baby might not be ok,so in my head i made all sorts of deals with God that if he let the baby be ok, then i would be good and not argue and do anything just as long as the baby was ok! I wanted this baby so much there is nothing i wouldn`t have done to make him ok.
Clive was commuting at that time , so i rang him and told him not to worry but they had trouble finding the heartbeat and i would ring when it was all ok!
At the Hospital i went in the room for a scan.When i looked at the screen i could see that Harvey`s limbs were up ,as if floating in water, i could not see a heartbeat flutter as i had seen previously, but the nurse poked my tummy and i saw Harvey move!She was very quiet and i asked "Did he just move"?
She turned off the screen and another nurse moved towads me and put her hand on my knee, "I`m sorry" she said.
At first i was quite matter of fact, i re-arranged my clothing and sat on the chair.Trying to be calm,but my stomach churned and i had to rush to the toilet.I came back in and the nurse asked if i wanted to telephone my husband Clive, i said "no" that she should do it .She rang Clive who had left work the minute i rang him on the way to the Hospital.He was already in Portsmouth and about an hour away.
I do not cry very often! I tend to store it all up.On this occasion, i sat in a little room on the ante natal department i cried until the whole room was full of tissues. When the nurse came in i said that we had just bought Harvey`s pram and all his clothes were waiting neatly for him, i had bought a little blanket to wrap him in to come home.
The consultant came in to a room full of tissues and despair! "Oh Dear" he said as he looked at me."Let it out " he said, "It is the ones who hold it all in we have to worry about!"
He asked about arrangements for after the birth and said i would be induced to give birth,This thought was terrible, but i had so wanted to see what a child of mine and Clive`s would look like and in one way i was excited that i would actually see our baby.
I told the consultant that i would be bringing the baby home with us.He patted my shoulder and said that he would talk to Clive about it when he arrived!
When Clive arrived they did ask him, and without consultation with me he said the exact same thing, that the baby would come home with us!
I love Clive all the more for this!
I was put in a room of my own.The nurses rang my friend who worked at the hospital, she had already left but she turned around and came back to sit with me not knowing what to say or do!
I was given some special tablets to help soften up my cervix,they hoped i would go into labour on my own.Clive asked before this, is there any chance that the scan could be wrong?I gazed up hopefully, but they said "no"it would not have gone this far if there was any chance of a mistake!
The days that followed were of course the saddest i have ever known.Our emotions came in waves.I had to take sleeping tablets to get any sleep and even when i did sleep i cried in my sleep and i wondered how much one person could cry, would it ever stop?
God did not strike up a deal with me! and i returned to be induced to have Harvey 2 days later.On the drive to the hospital i told Clive this would be our practice run and we would be doing this again.
On the way into the hospital we had to pass a heavily pregnant woman, smoking in the doorway! I couldn`t help but think why me, i didn`t do anything wrong for this to happen?
Harvey Ross Bax was born at 9.40 am on 28th March 2002, he was even more beautiful than i could ever have imagined!His Daddy`s ears, and dark hair like me.I was so proud and i rang my sister to tell her how handsome my baby boy was.
We arranged to have a little white zinc lined coffin made so that Harvey could come home with us.A nurse came in to put Harvey in a moses basket, she tried to cover him up, and said" there is no easy way of doing this, everyone will stare".We were quite annoyed with her and we told her not to touch him.We arranged him in the moses basket with love.Clive carried the basket through the maternity ward full of people holding their new born babies.I wondered what parents could possibly love a baby more than us?Why had our baby been taken away from us?
We visited Harvey in the mortuary every day until we collected his coffin to bring him home.Clive drove the car and i held the coffin in the back seat.We were both happy to be bringing him home to us.
We had a funeral in the back garden.Clive dug the grave and we invited the select few who had had anything to do with Harvey.Everyone cried when Clive brought the coffin out, we played a classical track,
Time To Say Goodbye ,that Clive had played at his Mothers funeral.
When everyone went we lowered the tiny white coffin into the ground.
So, my Harvey is here with us.His grave is the last thing i see out of the window when i go to sleep at night, and his picture is the first thing i look at every morning.
I miss him every day and he is never far from my thoughts!
28th March 2002, 6 years of missing you every day
I wish to thank the kind people of SANDS
SANDS: Stillbirth and Neonatal Death Society
Before you leave, please light a candle for Harvey
His family read each one.
His memory goes on because you are here and because we remember.
They say memories are golden, well maybe that is true.
I never wanted memories, I only wanted you.
A million times I needed you, a million times I cried.
If love alone could have saved you, you never would have died.
In life I loved you dearly, in death I love you still.
In my heart you hold a place no one could ever fill.
If tears could build a stairway and heartache make a lane,
I'd walk the path to heaven and bring you back again.
Our family chain is broken, and nothing seems the same.
But as we leave one by one, the chain will link again.
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